Out of Your Hands, Out of Your Head

I recently heard a quote that instantly resonated with me: "If it's out of your hands, get it out of your head." How often do we stress over things completely out of our control? Whether it's a situation at work, a disagreement with a loved one, or a global pandemic, there are just some things that we can't change.

But here's the thing: worrying about those things doesn't do us any good. In fact, it makes us feel worse. When we focus on the negative, it can be hard to see the positive. We can become consumed by our anxiety and anger, and it can be challenging to break free from those feelings.

So what's the solution? The best way to push those negative thoughts from our minds is to cram our minds so full of positive thoughts that there's no room left for negativity. Instead of focusing on what we can't control, let's focus on what we can, like our attitudes, actions, and kindness towards others.

For example, instead of getting worked up about a situation at work that's out of your hands, try focusing on the things you can do to make the situation better. You could offer to help a coworker who’s struggling, or you could take a break and do something you enjoy to clear your mind.

When it comes to disagreements with loved ones, try focusing on the positive aspects of your relationship instead of dwelling on the negative. Remember the good times you’ve shared and why you care about each other. Instead of getting angry, try to approach the situation with kindness and understanding.

Of course, this is easier said than done. Anxious and angry thoughts seldom vacate our minds easily, and trying to force them out is rarely successful. But with practice, we can learn to replace those negative thoughts with positive ones.

One way to do this is by practicing gratitude. When we focus on the things we're thankful for, it can be hard to stay angry or anxious. So, take a few minutes each day to think about what you're grateful for. Maybe it's your health, your family, or the roof over your head. Whatever it is, focus on those things and let the negative thoughts fade away.

Another way to eliminate negative thoughts is to focus on the present moment. Instead of worrying about the future or dwelling on the past, stay present in the here and now. This can be especially helpful when we're feeling overwhelmed or anxious.

Finally, don’t be afraid to seek help if you need it. Whether you talk to a trusted friend or seek professional help, remember that there’s no shame in admitting that you need support. We all go through tough times, and it’s okay to ask for help when we need it. You are not alone, and there are people who care about you and want to help.

In conclusion, while we can't control everything in our lives, we can control how we respond to those things. By focusing on the positive and letting go of the negative, we can find peace and joy, even amid difficult circumstances. As the Bible says in Philippians 4:8, "Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things."

So, let's fill our minds with positive thoughts and let go of the negative, trusting that God has a plan for us and that He will see us through.  Remember, if it’s out of your hands, get it out of your head!